H. Sharam, haleem, Namanneem, Meetthee Zaban - Shame, Politeness, Humility, and Sweet Words
te-aaee eemaankee sharam hae, vafaadaaree teaaee or;
or teaaee sakhaavat jaao, e teenu(n)se eemaan baetthaa tthor;
jo sharam thoddee to eemaan ochhaa, esehee khe lekhaa;
pann teenu(n) lachhan jees meene nahee, to eemaan une kyaa dekhaa..61
The root of Imaan(Faith) is shame, loyalty is the other root. And charity is the third root. It is due to these three that Imaan is firmly established. If shame is less, Faith is less; according to fate. But if the above mentioned qualities do not prevail, then Faith has not touched the heart of the person.
sharam maradakaa chhatar hae, jo ayb us maradakaa ddhaa(n)ke,
usakaa ayb koee naa kaheve, jo sharam kare vae aape;
jo buraa amal karate sharmaayaa, or pastaayaa apane jeeyaa;
to usake ayb par pardaa, usake sharam ne kee-aa..................62
Shame is the shelter of a man as it covers the faults of this man. Nobody speaks about the faults of such a one, as he is ashamed of them. If one is ashamed of his bad deeds and is regretful heartily, then a curtain is placed over his faults. This is due to his shame.
haleemee maradakee, us maradakaa sahee yaar hae;
katthan vellaamaa(n)he haleemee, usakee madadgaar hae;
jaa jaalam haath jo koee padde, or naramee(n)se baat aakhe;
to jaalam haath-thee vae chhottakaa paave, haleemee usakee sharam raakhe..........63
Man's politeness is his best friend. During hard times, politeness becomes his helper. If anyone falls into the grip of an unkind person, and talks to him with humility, then he gets freedom from the hands of the unkind person. Politeness maintains his shame (self respect).
maradakaa jamaal haleemese(n)thee, hove raoshan ujaalaa;
jo koee usaku(n) dekhe, so aap jeev hove khush-haalaa;
naramee nekee jo usame(n) aaee, teesathee khubee deese sabakee najar;
jaalam jaesaa dev deese, jo hove surat chaa(n)d badar............64
The beauty of a real man comes from politeness, and his life becomes enlightened. The one who sees such a person, himself becomes delighted. If the virtue of humility dawns upon somebody, then he becomes the object of everyone's admiration and wonder. Even an oppressive person will see divinity(reflected on your face), if it shines like moon(with humility and politeness).
jo sabu(n) saathe namee chaale, ne utam tthaam beetthaave,
sabathee aap neechaa baetthe, to bohot baddaaee paave;
namee chaale so baddaaee paave, namannee sabaku(n) peeyaaree;
traaju pale jo hove name, use leve duneeyaa saaree...............65
If you are humble with everyone, you will be raised to an exalted status. If you seat in the lowest position, then you will attain a lofty status. If one walks in humility, he attains greatness as humility is loved by everyone. If one is humble, the scales are lowered and the whole world takes his side.
maradakaa martabaa bula(n)d hove, jo kare vae bohot namannee;
jo haath par salaamku(n) name, use kaheve baa(n)haa jamanee;
par namese(n) e baa(n)haa(n) huee peeyaaree, khaanne nayaamat beech ese ghatee;
jo par name so nayaamat paave, aap man baddaaee na raakhe ratee..66
The grade of the real person is elevated, if he demonstrates a great deal of humility. The hand by which you greet others is called the RIGHT HAND. This hand is indeed loved by others. You also eat your meals with the right hand. In this manner one attains benefits if he does not keep any arrogance at all.
bohot umaroho usakee hove, jeesa deel sakhtee hove thoddee;
nekee umaroho usakee raheve, jeene sakhtee karanee chhoddee;
sakhtee chhoddo naramee karo, jaesaa naram hae resham heer;
to mu(n)jathee resham bohot tthehersee, ees patta(n)tare samajo veer............67
A long life is attained by one who has less harshness in his heart. A happy and clean life is attained by the one who has given up harshness. Give up harshness and be soft as silk. Silk lasts longer. Using this analogy understand the inner mysteries of the heart.
komal deel apaneku(n) rakhnaa, jeeyu(n) komal haree-aalee kavalaa ghaas;
gardankash kattheen nahee honaa, jeeyu(n) zhaadd badde banavaas;
jab hotaa tufaan jorkaa(n), tab taru sakhat geer geer jaaye;
komal ghaas khush laheraa(n) leve, pavan use na shake geeraaye...68
Keep your heart soft, as soft as green tender grass. Do not be hard and tough like a big tree in the jungle. When there is a storm, a big and hard tree collapses soon but the tender and delicate grass stays happy and fresh. Even the wind and storm cannot harm the tender and delicate grass.
komal deel to aysaa rakhnaa, jaysaa komal maskaa tup;
jees neeyaamatme(n) tup hae meeltaa, usame(n) leej-jat hotee hae anup;
jeeyu(n) khaanneme(n) dhee laj-jat detaa, teeyu(n) komaltaase(n) laj-jat paave tan man;
jo sa(n)gadeelee ho sakhtee kartaa useeke bahot hove dushman.....69
Keep your heart soft, as soft as butter and ghee. When food is spread with butter, it tastes very delicious. As ghee gives taste to food, a soft heart gives virtue to the body and mind. A narrow minded person is hard and tough on others and therefore has many enemies.
kalaamkee narameese(n)thee deel hae aachhaa, kayedme(n) aataa jeeyu(n) heer naram ba(n)dhanku(n) aachhaa;
teeyu(n) naram kalaamse(n), hae deel ba(n)dhaataa;
mulak-kaa baadshaah jo chaahaave, to raeeyatkaa haath paau(n) baa(n)dhe gardan;
pann deelku(n) naa baa(n)dh shake, deel so baa(n)dhe jo bole meetthaa(n) naram bachan...70
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Through the politeness of speech, the heart is pure. Tying up something with silk makes it perfect. In the same manner polite speech binds the heart. If the king of a kingdom desires, he may tie the hands and feet of his people. But he cannot tie the hearts of them. The ones who can tie the hearts are those who speak politely and sweetly.
naram kar bhaaee bolee apanee, to tuje dost kar buje sab;
naram bolanaa vae ko sheekhe, jees upar karam kare aap rab;
naram bole so sab man pyaaraa, e farmaayaa hazarat shaah;
jo hae heedaayat karnevaalaa, hakeekat jeene bataaee raah........71
Be polite in your speech, then everyone will befriend you. The ones who learn to be polite are those upon whom the lord is merciful. If one speaks politely, then he/she is liked by everyone. This is as per the command of Hazarat Aly, who is the one who gives guidance and shows you the path of Hakikat(truth).
naramee karee-e sab khalkatse, to sab hove tere dostdaar;
pann aap komakee dost-tee bhalee, jeenu(n)se meelanaa hae har baar;
khesh ka-om kabeelaa apanaa, dost-tee bhalee or sa(n)gaat;
to neet naramee karo unu(n)se, jeenu(n)se meelanaa hae deen or raat........72
Be polite and gentle with the entire creation, then all will become your friends. But the friendship of your own community is better, whom you encounter all the time. The friendship and company of your own group, community and tribe is better. Then be polite and gentle with the ones whom you meet every day and night.
jo huaa meetthaa bolaa, une nyaamat baddee paaee;
meetthee jeebh to usakee hove, jo hove makbul eelaahee;
sabu saathe jo meetthaa bole, to khalkat deel pateeje;
to sab deel bheetar hae keelataar, so hak subhaan usathee reeje..73
Those who speak politely, have attained a great boon. Sweet tongue is of those upon whom God ce. By sweet speech the trade of a trader increases. In the trading place of this world, speak politely; then you will capture the hearts of all. As the Kingly Lord resides in the hearts of all, you will indeed attain Him.
jo muravat adakee chaahaave, to sabakee baddaaee raakhe;
namee chaale ne meetthaa bole, narameese(n) baat aa(n)khe;
sab keseeku(n) mottaa jaane, aap hove neemaannaa;
to nek khaslat us meene aaee, sat dharam une peechhaanaa.........75
The one who desires more wealth, gratifies all. He proceeds with humility and speaks politely and talks in a humble manner. He considers others as elders and himself becomes small. Then the great principle of life has dawned upon him and he has indeed understood the True Religion.